DFS Investigation

Mom got a phone call this morning from a worker in the Children's Service Division of DFS saying there have been some allegations and she would need to come out and see the Little Dementor and the Tiniest Supervillain today. When Mom told me I called the worker back to see if those were the only 2 children she needed or if she needed the rest of them home too since 3 of mine are in school. She said the allegations did not include my children so she would not need to see them. Alright. before I could I call my brother to let him know so he could be here at the appointed time, I had a voicemail on my phone from the Children's Service Division of the DFS of another county. She was looking for me and Walter. WTH? What does Walter have to do with any of this? My brother called me back and I talked to him before calling the other worker back to see what was going on. She asked about the L.D. and T.S. how everyone was related, what time they spent here, why here etc. I asked her what the allegations were and she said she was limited in the amount of information she could give (which, I already know) but ... the first time she told me the allegations I thought I misunderstood because the kids chose that exact moment to go loud and crazy. I asked her to repeat that and she told me that allegedly, and she stressed allegedly and explained what allegedly means. Thinking- I know allegations. Dear God, woman! do you not have access to my file!? but I told her I understood "allegedly" so she proceeded with *someone* threw the L.D. on the bed and made him chip his tooth. I'm shocked, thinking of who could possibly have thrown him on the bed hard enough to chip his tooth and they must be talking about when Goofy and L.D. were jumping on the bed and the L.D.'s teeth went through his tongue. but that was, like, last December! Why would they call after more than a year? That doesn't make sense. So I asked Mom if he had a chipped tooth, he does. The woman asked if his tooth hurt so I asked the L.D. about his tooth and if it was hurting. He said no, the woman was satified with our conversation and told me a local worker would be out to lay eyes on the children. Ok.

It was only later that I realized this was not the normal pulled out of thin air completely off the wall and extremely vague accusation usually made by the school (proprioception- google it) or other parents during a custody battle. I knew exactly what they were talking about and I knew by the county it was reported in there are only 2 people who could have reported it. This call was directed at ME by members of Big Daddy's family. The first time the woman told me the allegations, I did not misunderstand. The allegations were that I threw the L.D. on the bed with enough force to chip his tooth. and I know the exact moment they are talking about. Thank God for all those other DFS calls, because of them I work hard to remember every moment of the day, I watch every bruise, every mark. I remember where they were, what happened to cause them, and when they appeared.

It all started yesterday morning. I was in the garage with the door open working on my blog and checking my page while listening to Goofy, the L.D. and T.S. playing in the back yard. I told you guys all of this yesterday :( but anyway, Goofy screamed. When I took off running for Goofy, L.D. took off running away. When he got to me, I grabbed him by the shirt and walked him back to Goofy to figure out what happened. Goofy told me that the L.D. smashed his hand with the landscaping stone (my brother says that's what they are called). I asked the L.D. why he would do that and what he was thinking. I held them both by their wrists and walked them into the house, put the L.D. in time out and went to see what was going on with Goofy's hand. I called Big Daddy to see if he thought we should get it X-rayed. I told L.D. that what he did was unacceptable and BAD. I took him downstairs to Mom and plopped him on the bed- carelessly but without force- then took Goofy to the ER to find out it wasn't broken, just bruised. When I got home I gathered all 3 of them, explained the rules, stressing KAHFOOTY, and included the other 2 in Goofy's behavior chart and reward system.

I don't understand how this even happened. I don't understand why they (family) would believe that I would be forceful or what would possess someone to say it in the first place. I told Big Daddy that this really hurts my feelings because, of all of the adults in the house, aside from my brother, I am the least hands on person in the entire house! The way we grew up taught us what we don't want for our kids. Even spanking is an absolute last resort reserved for really serious/ dangerous behaviors.

but, anyway, I'm not really in a talkative mood today so I won't be on my page. Instead, I believe I shall spend the rest of the day beeing moody and sulking followed by a serious discussion Big Daddy is determined to have tonight because he is furious. I will be back on tomorrow for sure.


***added note: The L.D. did not chip his tooth on the bed. He chipped his tooth much, much later in one of his many overly-active overly-physical activities and it broke around bed time.